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How to overcome procrastination and take the first step to your ultimate goal

I know, first steps stink!

The first step is always the most difficult step. We all have to fight with our laziness and procrastination to take the first step of anything. And not only that, first steps are new and therefore can never be smooth.

I also know, the first step is also the main cause that make 80% of new year’s resolutions fail in just the second month of the year. Why procrastination is that hard to overcome? Why taking the first step is always be beaten by so many reasons?

What is procrastination?

Procrastination alludes to the act of intentionally and constantly putting off assignments which should be done. Individuals who procrastinate tend to self-mislead their acts by doing different assignments which are insignificant to pass time, and afterwards have no opportunity to do the more difficult and essential assignments. In time, this turns into a negative behavior pattern that is hard to escape, and will influence the individual’s standard of work, just as his emotions or desires.

Where does procrastination come from?

There are heaps of manners by which the act of procrastination can develop. It is a certain thing that you won’t procrastinate dependably for the same reasons. At times, you procrastinate in light of the fact that you believe you have such a large number of things at the forefront of your thoughts and procrastinating makes you feel free. Be that as it may, on other occasions, you will simply feel apathetic or tired, and not in the state of mind to do it.

Below are various reasons for procrastination and the manners in which you can react to them.

Laziness

There are situations when we tend to procrastinate in light of the fact that we don’t have the physical or the enthusiastic power to work. Idleness is an exceptionally perilous thing, and it can drag you in laziness without taking note. At the point when laziness occurs, even the simplest assignment may require a ton of work. Why? Since you won’t have the level of energy that you require so as to play out that assignment, some may even say that the assignment is excessively troublesome and they will hesitate just to preserve energy. In any case, you should attempt to escape this pattern at the earliest opportunity before gloom kicks in.

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How to retain ourselves with love the unbound way

From people perspective, everything, every action, every motion, every thought, every feeling, all of life is an attempt to experience love. And when I mention “love” it is not just about Eros (the romantic love) but also:

  • Philia (deep friendship),
  • Ludus (playful love, which involves playful activities),
  • Agape (selfless love, including but not limited to love for humankind, for nature, for God),
  • Pragma (longstanding love, which involves duty and long term interests),
  • Philautia (self love, which can be healthy or unhealthy, we will discuss the healthy Philautia below), and
  • Storge (familial love) 

But how can we retain ourselves with love, incorporate this perspective into our daily lives and how do we therefore reduce our “negative” emotions such as hate, resentment, and anger? Is there an easy way of looking at ourselves and our emotions so that we can sustain the perspective that hate and love are just two sides of the same coin?

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Why I wrote “100 new little things”

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Why I wrote “100 new little things”

The book is my own experience, and the experience at the beginning is not as clear as written in the book, but it is in fact a long journey from many years ago of an introverted and lazy person, trying to get out of the box that life locked her in.

My beginning was like many people who tried something new to overcome stress and boredom. Then I got swept up in the whirlwind of works, schools and responsibilities, felt nothing that I really loved and the limits that introverts always encounter. And then I told myself: why couldn’t I both keep my nature (introverted) and radiate in a different way instead of clumping inwardly? A cute kind of “extroverted introvert”, or an ambivert 🙂

And then I realized a recipe of 3 ingredients (see chapter 1 below), which if being put individually will be found spread and shallow throughout the web, but are extremely beneficial to combine, and immediately from the beginning I have set it as “100 new little things”. And it’s especially helpful for introverts to try their own way. In addition, because these are just small beginnings, introverts will not feel compelled to “strive hard”, to “change their values,” or to “expose oneself to public” in order to achieve success.

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150+ new little things to change your life

Life can get boring if we live day in day out doing the same things and following the same routine. Why not inject something new into our life? We do not know how well we can do something without taking them into action.

After learning the procedure of daily routines, we usually do not even think about it. Our subconscious mind directs us to automatically go through the same motions over and over. New things force us to get off autopilot and reinvent ourselves. It doesn’t really matter what it is, as long as it is something new and unfamiliar. Stretch ourselves. Stretch our imaginations. Stretch our possibilities.

So, below is the list I create for you to try new little things. One of the longest lists so far in the Internet, which I am proud of 🙂

The list is divided into:

  • Doing new things (Art and Crafts, Social activities, Travel / New places, Writing / Reading, New skills, Personal habits)
  • Thinking differently (Dealing with emotions, Digging inner thoughts)

Enjoy.

Arts and Crafts

  1. Try a seven day simple doodle
  2. Make a sketch of your dream home or vacation home
  3. Learn a new skill–what about sewing, gardening or cooking?
  4. Make a scrapbook, print out photographs, emails, pictures
  5. Learn to play a musical instrument.
  6. Cook something you would never normally try
  7. Invent your own cocktail, purchase your favorite ingredients and try out something new
  8. Learn Calligraphy
  9. Learn watercolour painting
  10. Do some colouring pages Continue reading “150+ new little things to change your life”
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Shame of a perfectionist: Are you a celebrity? If not, forget it.

Shame of a perfectionist: Are you a celebrity? If not, forget it.

Anyone of us might experienced the feeling of being ashamed in the past. Most of us can forget about it quickly, but there are some embarrassment which still stays there, and when we remember it, we feel uneasy, our hands sweat, our faces turn red.

A lousy presentation? A disgraceful saying? Whatever the case, the longest shame is the shame in front of others. (Because if you do a shameful thing that no one witnesses, the shame will drift into your subconsciousness forever).

For a perfectionist, shame is a real enemy. Because in about two dozen embarrassment in the last ten years, there might be only two cases that stayed in the minds for normal peeps. As perfectionists, because of high standards, their expectations of something are often pretty far from reality, that’s why they would cope with the feeling of their own shame more than others.

So, if you are not a perfectionist: take a breath, take s step to control your shame, why would you let it dominate you and not vice versa?

But if you are not a perfectionist, are you a public figure? If not, you are still lucky enough. Imagine the embarrassing moments of celebs being photographed, recorded, made into meme and spread around day by day.

Do you feel better?

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The Journey Begins

About “Unbound Wallflowers”:

“Wallflower” is a species of cabbage family planted in Europe with flowers of yellow, orange, red and occasionally with a little brown, blooming in early spring. The name itself derives from eponymous plant’s unusual growth pattern, against a wall as a stake or in cracks and gaps in the stone walls.

That’s also the reason to define people who join parties and gatherings but always avoid the crowd and the limelight as wallflowers. They usually just stand against the wall and watch other people talk and dance rather than mingle. People often identify this word with introverts. And although it is true that introverts love to be wallflowers, so do all of us, when we do not want to or even think about stepping out of the ordinary.

We actually have heard a lot about living to experience, challenge, explore and develop ourselves. But those words flickered through us then disappeared in the midst of everyday’s work, study, households, children, emotions. At some rare time we stop to make a something just enough to recharge energy, that’s all.

So I create a recipe called “100 new little things”. This site is where I share it to you.

We will do something new every week, from fun things like writing, drawing, pottery, to thinking differently, solving problems and dealing with emotions. You will have the opportunity to experience, challenge, explore, change the way you think, turn lively, diverse, thoughtful, or in short to be a better you.

We are wallflowers that unbind.

You are still yourself, and not only that, you are a European flower that will unbind from the wall whenever you want. Or maybe you’re still against the wall, but it’s because you’re comfortable being like that, not because you’re scared of the crowd.

“We often overestimate what we can do in a day, but always underestimate what we can do in a year.” – Unknown.

I am sure that by remembering to do new things constantly, though small, you will see your world changes. Keeping the state of a child, you will love to try new things, feel easy and necessary to enjoy the sweetness of the world. Maybe you will not feel the change in one day, but from a few months to a year, you will see miracles coming like stardust from a wand.

“The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

And of course you will have a list of 100 of your own. That list may be different from what I shared, because you may not be a yellow flower, but orange, but red, but occasionally brown. You can refer to my list in the “100 crazy things blog”. Just have fun, baby.

This recipe is for:

  • Those want to “get out of the box”, want to be a thinker, want to explore the self, to find freedom and creativity, to enjoy every moment of life in the most delicate and complete way.
  • Those are introverted that want to unbound and become better.
  • Those are trapped in dull and stagnant everyday life.
  • Those want to erase the stress of work, education, family, children.
  • Those are happy or at a good state, and have enough energy to do something new and fun and make life even brighter.

Welcome to this small community.

You may ask why? Here are the benefits:

First, I have been trying new things for years. Those are just new small things that I have happened to think of, such as to walk around all the strange roads in the blocks behind my house to see what are there, to sit down and closely watch the dead leaves forming a colourful summer carpet, to read a book in a field that I was not used to, or to gather some close friends at a nice coffee shop talking about any specific knowledge.

And guess what, I found out that these things are little fun thing that brightened up my days. I just discovered something I am good at that I had never thought of before.

Plus, you never know there would be one small thing that could lead to a bigger thing. Such as, after I read a book in philosophy I got so addicted to the field and ended up reading so many related books that deeply changed my thoughts. You too, you may find one of your small things will not just to light a day, but to light your months and years.

Or it is simply just a nice water colour drawing day with a “very-you result” that you will share it over your social media, or privately with your Messengers’ close friends.

Easy or difficult?

The choice is yours.

But since these are “new” things, not to mention its nature is easy or difficult, at the beginning you ought to have some kind of “move your arse” attitude in order to kickstart it. This is where things work: you already have a colony that you call it “yourself”, now just unbind it, get just one step out of the comfort zone, feel it. If it really leads to somewhere then you create a path, if not, do another thing in another direction. All of your tiniest moves count! It is just as good as extending your territory, am I right?

Don’t worry, you have a brick wall behind to back you up!