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Why is struggling a part of life?

For what reason is it, at that point, that a few people appear to experience existence with no apparent struggle, while others appear to pull in it into their existence with every breath? I have known struggle in each part of my life: my profession, my relationships and my ability to let go and surrender, and it comes to my conclusion that the former experience more or less the same amount of struggle like the latter, just that they don’t reveal their weak parts in front of you 🙂

Struggle is a part of life. Whenever you try anything difficult or new, you will undoubtedly have some kind of struggle or battle. Exercise requires struggle. Love requires struggle. Changing a supposition, conviction, desire or disposition all requires struggle. Whenever you endeavor growth in any aspect of your life, you will struggle.

A struggle isn’t in our genes, however, in our minds and our response to life. It isn’t in our environment, condition or individuals but in our desires.

The issue here is that every one of us is endeavoring to grow, structure and live our ideal life, however, sometimes we don’t have the foggiest idea what it will or should look like. We are endeavoring to move into a cheerful and effective future, however, we don’t appear to realize how to make it. We as a whole need something progressively, better or less, in some aspect of our life, yet are at a loss with respect to why we don’t or can’t have it. That’s what is called “a struggle”.

If it’s not too much trouble note – I am including the following in any definition of struggle: exertion, disappointment, issues, dangers, misfortunes, broken dreams, dissatisfaction, stress, and so forth.

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Treating guilt the unbound way

Remember the time when you felt like you did something wrong. Okay, I know it’s very frustrated to relive your bad feelings, but for a moment at least recall how you once dealt with it, because that’s the only way to find a better approach to treat your guilt.

Guilt is a message from our emotion to learn from mistake so we would not repeat it. The key lesson learned when you feel “guilty” is being able to recognize “I did something bad”, which is much different than claiming “I am bad”.

Do not hate yourself, hate what you did instead and decide to change or improve from it.

The choice is ours as to whether we bury ourselves in guilt or let it go. It is important to remember that guilt can be a good thing, as an expression of our conscience and its response to the mistakes we make along the way. There is no such thing as a perfect-person, at least not in this day and age. We all have done things we felt guilty about. The problem arises when we cannot move past the guilt or when that guilt brings self-destructive behavior.

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Treating disappointment the unbound way

I bet you experienced this feeling, for so many times in your life.

(No worries, me too)

Let’s make up some (very related) examples:

Your crush refused you and your carefully prepared 100 roses, in front of so many strangers on the street?

Your colleague took the promotion at year end which should have been yours and laughed at your face?

Your loved one promised to come home early to have dinner together at your anniversary and was nowhere to be seen, even though it was so late already?

Whether we’re talking about a lost job, a child being disappointed because Mom or Dad didn’t make it to the school play, a failed marriage where you put the blame squarely on your spouse, the feelings are all the same. As a “victim”, your disappointment could be so great that you will not ever forgive. No matter how slight the reason is, when you are experiencing disappointment, the feelings are real. Consequently, if we do not deal with disappointment appropriately, they become counterproductive and create even more disappointment.

There are two types of people on earth. Type I are those who take any disappointment in stride; they observe what happened, explore the lesson that needs to be learned and then simply move onto the next adventure.

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How to change with ease (and fun)

Last week I had great training sessions at work, in which change management is a nice small part which I find relevant and want to share with you in this blog. Every organization encounter an urge to change, and sadly, organisations, like people, don’t prefer changes very much. But in business, change is a must, sometimes vital for the company not to be broken down. In order to ease the process, “change management” is born to help from top down.

And then I thought, this is pretty much related to personal development as well. It comes from our willingness, tops down from our brain, fuels our growth and brings us opportunities to complete ourselves.      

But it’s not easy. One of my colleagues said that it made him touched out for trying to be better everyday, for working late in his cubicle, for exercising till exhaustion, for continuously improving and proving to the world that he worths.

That he is having no life and no happiness. What he got was just merely stress, exhaustion and disappointment over time, especially when he sees that it still takes too far to reach his desire peak.

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3 powerful questions on how to be A BETTER YOU

Are you U N I Q U E ?

After reading that question, you probably already have the answer popping up in your mind.

Yes.

No?

Were you once told that you are made of stardust? Glamorous. Poetic. Mythical.

That no one else in the world has the exact fingertips as yours, even your twin doesn’t, if you have one.

That your voice and your appearance are so unique they can not be imitated naturally.

That you play a vital role on this earth, you were born for a reason, are gifted, original and unique.

In some way.

You will hate me for saying this, but despite all of the above, you are NOT UNIQUE, JUST DIFFERENT.

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Koinophobia: The fear of living an ordinary life

While I was floating on the information flow in a normal day, this video caught me like a dried branch grabs a yellow leaf in the river with its music, narrative, a sense of sadness, loss and fear.

It is a 3 minute video, you can watch it here.

Its words are so touching:

“While you’re in it, life seems epic.

Fiery, tenuous, and unpredictable.

But once you have some distance from it,

everything seems to shrink,

until it’s almost out of focus.

Koinophobia.

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You are not your emotions

Recently when devoting most of my spare time to research on the emotion subject, I realized that when we talk about emotions to our friends, family, even to ourselves, it can’t be clear. Emotions are like tornadoes of feelings, which always seem to be so vague, yet so strong, which are unable to reach and control. We never realize, at least in times we are drown in our own emotions, that we are not those emotions.

You know the feelings of being disappointed, furious, discouraged, or depressed. Sometimes, the feelings can be more complicated, like experiencing misery as a result of discouragement, or disappointment coming after fury. At such moments, you were seeing a hole between who you truly are, and what you are encountering. You don’t know why or what precisely you are feeling, but simply realize that you don’t feel good. Feelings do have many layers which you need to recognize by serious reflection.

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