Have you ever experienced a Eureka moment? I once suddenly understood a secret of almost all of our negative emotions when I was asking around the question: “What is your most irritated negative feeling?”
I had smashed it against the wall. The iphone’s screen was broken and I knew it would take quite some money (and some time) to fix it.
But the thing is, if you now ask me why I did it, I can not give a proper answer. I know whom I set my fire on, but I wouldn’t recall the reason. After some time it was too small to ever think about it again.
And that was not the first time I smashed my phone because of trivial reasons.
It was quite stupid, you may say, but we all sacrifice our personal belongings, our own mental stability, our precious relationships, or all of the above, to get over the negative emotions quickly.
We never think of the root cause which triggered us to act like we are the victims of our emotions. We just act whatever that makes us release the bad energy. But you know, there are better ways to treat anger, besides smashing things, punching pillows and shouting in the forest (especially when we don’t live near any forest!).
Recently when devoting most of my spare time to research on the emotion subject, I realized that when we talk about emotions to our friends, family, even to ourselves, it can’t be clear. Emotions are like tornadoes of feelings, which always seem to be so vague, yet so strong, which are unable to reach and control. We never realize, at least in times we are drown in our own emotions, that we are not those emotions.
You know the feelings of being disappointed, furious, discouraged, or depressed. Sometimes, the feelings can be more complicated, like experiencing misery as a result of discouragement, or disappointment coming after fury. At such moments, you were seeing a hole between who you truly are, and what you are encountering. You don’t know why or what precisely you are feeling, but simply realize that you don’t feel good. Feelings do have many layers which you need to recognize by serious reflection.
This website is built to encourage doing new things and thinking different. For those who love challenges to thrive, it is clear as a bell. But for those who are so introverted, those who very much enjoy their comfort zone and those who are stuck with procrastination, doing new things is still difficult which requires energy, time, and priority (of course).
If you are one of the latter, you may want to read on to see some cool benefits of doing new, so that you will save your energy and time to put it in your priority list. And if you can make it even better, you will have the need to develop this “Doing new things” mindset, gain its momentum and build it as a habit.
1. Doing new things is A trait of successful people
Successful people might swear when they are talking to one type of person, meanwhile are sophisticated and classy when talking to another type. They might treat one of their employees in a semi-harsh way and treat another in a friendly and relaxed manner. These different situations have nothing to do with chance or coincidence. Highly successful people are fully aware of what they are communicating to the outside world, and they know so because they have a lot of different perspectives through which they can view things.
2. Overcoming fear and stagnation
Have you ever recalled your frequent anxiety or fear toward something? Public speaking? An important examination? A spider or a rat? Doing new little things is a great solution to train ourselves for fear, because it is the time for us to get control and not play victim. Sooner or later, we will be able to respond to difficult circumstances that we have to endure with greater ease. Plus, this method can get you motivated to remove the barriers progressively and overcome the stagnation as well. Gradually, when you get used to little challenges, you will realize that fear has stopped and stagnation has dropped. And then, when facing something that is about to happen, you have already collected enough stamina, and you pop up like a monarch butterfly emerging from chrysalis.
Let me tell you about someone I met at Taipei airport just on our Lunar new year trip this Feb. You may guess, an old friend, a colleague, a family member?
Nope. A rabbit.
Yes, you hear me well. I met a rabbit, his picture below:
I know, some may
say it is too weird or devil, some are terrifying or annoying seeing this, and some
freak out. It is not an easy statue, but I love it.
Nhyh-Jen Ni Ni,
the artist of this piece of art, uses waste paper as the material of her
sculptures, and reshapes it into rabbit-themed creations. Her works are
reflections of all of us, who believe they can bravely break through the
challenges and frustrations. The name of this statue is “Glamorous steps toward
A narrative of
this piece is:
“What’s the biggest fear in life?
Perhaps, it’s not the flaws we tried to improve nor the
uncertainty in the dark. It’s the fear of meeting the brighter and stronger self
that is beyond our imagination.
Often, we draw a line that prevents us from trying.
Often, we are accustomed to the comfort zone we are at.
However, who is the one set the trap for you and me?
Perhaps, being imperfect is not our biggest fear, it’s the
ignorance where we know nothing about our own value.
Staring at the reflection of your face on the window along
with the setting sun view, can’t you tell we are all unique and shinny
Going out and exploring might be the first step to find your true self?”
The first step is always the most difficult
step. We all have to fight with our laziness and procrastination to take the
first step of anything. And not only that, first steps are new and therefore
can never be smooth.
I also know, the first step is also the main
cause that make 80% of new year’s resolutions fail in just the second month of
the year. Why procrastination is that hard to overcome? Why taking the first
step is always be beaten by so many reasons?
Procrastination alludes to the act of
intentionally and constantly putting off assignments which should be done.
Individuals who procrastinate tend to self-mislead their acts by doing
different assignments which are insignificant to pass time, and afterwards have
no opportunity to do the more difficult and essential assignments. In time,
this turns into a negative behavior pattern that is hard to escape, and will
influence the individual’s standard of work, just as his emotions or desires.
does procrastination come from?
There are heaps of manners by which the act
of procrastination can develop. It is a certain thing that you won’t
procrastinate dependably for the same reasons. At times, you procrastinate in
light of the fact that you believe you have such a large number of things at
the forefront of your thoughts and procrastinating makes you feel free. Be that
as it may, on other occasions, you will simply feel apathetic or tired, and not
in the state of mind to do it.
Below are various reasons for procrastination
and the manners in which you can react to them.
There are situations when we tend to
procrastinate in light of the fact that we don’t have the physical or the
enthusiastic power to work. Idleness is an exceptionally perilous thing, and it
can drag you in laziness without taking note. At the point when laziness
occurs, even the simplest assignment may require a ton of work. Why? Since you
won’t have the level of energy that you require so as to play out that
assignment, some may even say that the assignment is excessively troublesome
and they will hesitate just to preserve energy. In any case, you should attempt
to escape this pattern at the earliest opportunity before gloom kicks in.