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A letter for new moms – How to survive with your toddler

Following feedbacks for my previous “Letter for new moms – How to survive the first year of being a mother”, I think it is necessary to again share my experience of dealing with a toddler, the one that drains most of our energy! 

So, dear mom, 

Fever, fever, fever all the times! 

As a parent of a toddler, you may recall the sleepless nights, over-worried feelings and the fuzzle of what to do next during your precious’ fever. In deed, it can be a disturbing thing for parents to manage. Regularly a high fever in little children can spring out of the blue and reach alarming heights, but a fever itself can never be as a disaster as your over-anxiety.

Let me describe a bit about my situation so that you can easily imagine the things I am talking about. I am a type of over-anxiety mom. I just have one child and since he was born, I kind of turned into an over-exaggerated mom, regarding anger and anxiety. My baby, on his third day in this world, got  pneumonia, and was taken away from me and sent to the PICU for one week (to me it was like forever). After that, he got heavy breaths for like 3 months. When he was sleeping, I had to wake up from time to time to check on him and make sure he was fine dealing with his hissing sounds. It took him quite a long time to get over it, not until his 4th month when his breath became normal and me getting so used to checking him.

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A letter for new moms – How to survive through the first year of being a mother

Dear Mom,

Are you in the postpartum depression? Or if you went through it, does it make you quiver whenever you remember that hard period of time in your life?

I am writing this to you because I once had a hard labor, I once was in postpartum depression, and I once was touched out.

If you are a single mom, you probably are aware that single moms have such a large number of more issues to manage consistently than mothers who have a “significant other” to help them out. You need to work twice as hard as other moms. All things considered, generally, you are mother and father, all in one package.

The superpower you

You get the chance to be a cook, driver, housekeeper, nurse, planner, organizer, storyteller and teacher all while holding down your full-time job, just in case that you need to know the definition of exhaustion, look up “mother” in the dictionary.

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Why is struggling a part of life?

For what reason is it, at that point, that a few people appear to experience existence with no apparent struggle, while others appear to pull in it into their existence with every breath? I have known struggle in each part of my life: my profession, my relationships and my ability to let go and surrender, and it comes to my conclusion that the former experience more or less the same amount of struggle like the latter, just that they don’t reveal their weak parts in front of you 🙂

Struggle is a part of life. Whenever you try anything difficult or new, you will undoubtedly have some kind of struggle or battle. Exercise requires struggle. Love requires struggle. Changing a supposition, conviction, desire or disposition all requires struggle. Whenever you endeavor growth in any aspect of your life, you will struggle.

A struggle isn’t in our genes, however, in our minds and our response to life. It isn’t in our environment, condition or individuals but in our desires.

The issue here is that every one of us is endeavoring to grow, structure and live our ideal life, however, sometimes we don’t have the foggiest idea what it will or should look like. We are endeavoring to move into a cheerful and effective future, however, we don’t appear to realize how to make it. We as a whole need something progressively, better or less, in some aspect of our life, yet are at a loss with respect to why we don’t or can’t have it. That’s what is called “a struggle”.

If it’s not too much trouble note – I am including the following in any definition of struggle: exertion, disappointment, issues, dangers, misfortunes, broken dreams, dissatisfaction, stress, and so forth.

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One way to cure all of your negativity

There is,

A unique way to cure your negative feelings,

And not just those feelings, it also cures

All of your irritation,


And discouragement,

It is nothing other than,

To Know your Why

My three-year-old child once,

Decided not to wear clothes on his own

He asked for help, with his kittenish voice,

“Mom, don’t you love me anymore.”

The melted me answered, “My sweetheart, of course I love you.”

Then he went: “Help me wear these clothes, if so.”

And I replied, “I love you, baby,

But no.”

The guilt was there

But I knew my Why.

You may also once,

Felt like you don’t want to accept more workplace challenges.

Because more hard work means less free time

The irritation was there

But you knew your Why.

You may also once,

Felt like the thing you know IS RIGHT

Will never bring you the future of wealth

Because the souls were moved, not the pockets were filled

The confusion was there

But you knew your Why

And once,

You felt like the people you love

Never understand what you have been doing

Because love should have brought “ease and cheese”

The discouragement was there

But you knew your Why

And that was the time

You stepped over your negative feelings

Irritation, Confusion, Discouragement

That were floating on the surface

And faced your ultimate FEAR

That was hiding deep down

And slayed that dragon

With your sword of WHY.

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How to change with ease (and fun)

Last week I had great training sessions at work, in which change management is a nice small part which I find relevant and want to share with you in this blog. Every organization encounter an urge to change, and sadly, organisations, like people, don’t prefer changes very much. But in business, change is a must, sometimes vital for the company not to be broken down. In order to ease the process, “change management” is born to help from top down.

And then I thought, this is pretty much related to personal development as well. It comes from our willingness, tops down from our brain, fuels our growth and brings us opportunities to complete ourselves.      

But it’s not easy. One of my colleagues said that it made him touched out for trying to be better everyday, for working late in his cubicle, for exercising till exhaustion, for continuously improving and proving to the world that he worths.

That he is having no life and no happiness. What he got was just merely stress, exhaustion and disappointment over time, especially when he sees that it still takes too far to reach his desire peak.

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3 powerful questions on how to be A BETTER YOU

Are you U N I Q U E ?

After reading that question, you probably already have the answer popping up in your mind.



Were you once told that you are made of stardust? Glamorous. Poetic. Mythical.

That no one else in the world has the exact fingertips as yours, even your twin doesn’t, if you have one.

That your voice and your appearance are so unique they can not be imitated naturally.

That you play a vital role on this earth, you were born for a reason, are gifted, original and unique.

In some way.

You will hate me for saying this, but despite all of the above, you are NOT UNIQUE, JUST DIFFERENT.

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