Do new things, Know your Why, Think different

ONISM: The awareness of how little in the world you will experience

Have you ever wondered about how little you are, and how little in the world you will experience in your short lifespan? Especially with ones who love to travel, this pain may touch you not just once, that you have to decide between mountains and beaches, Europe and Asia, with an aching thought that even until you have to say your last goodbye, you still never really know your whole country, your whole world, your whole universe?

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows explains this very well using the word “Onism”.

onism – n. the frustration of being stuck in just one body, that inhabits only one place at a time, which is like standing in front of the departures screen at an airport, flickering over with strange place names like other people’s passwords, each representing one more thing you’ll never get to see before you die-and all because, as the arrow on the map helpfully points out, you are here.

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Know your Why, Think different, Treat expectations, Treat negative emotions

One way to cure all of your negativity

There is,

A unique way to cure your negative feelings,

And not just those feelings, it also cures

All of your irritation,

Confusion,

And discouragement,

It is nothing other than,

To Know your Why


My three-year-old child once,

Decided not to wear clothes on his own

He asked for help, with his kittenish voice,

“Mom, don’t you love me anymore.”

The melted me answered, “My sweetheart, of course I love you.”

Then he went: “Help me wear these clothes, if so.”

And I replied, “I love you, baby,

But no.”

The guilt was there

But I knew my Why.


You may also once,

Felt like you don’t want to accept more workplace challenges.

Because more hard work means less free time

The irritation was there

But you knew your Why.


You may also once,

Felt like the thing you know IS RIGHT

Will never bring you the future of wealth

Because the souls were moved, not the pockets were filled

The confusion was there

But you knew your Why


And once,

You felt like the people you love

Never understand what you have been doing

Because love should have brought “ease and cheese”

The discouragement was there

But you knew your Why


And that was the time

You stepped over your negative feelings

Irritation, Confusion, Discouragement

That were floating on the surface

And faced your ultimate FEAR

That was hiding deep down

And slayed that dragon

With your sword of WHY.

Know your Why, Think different, Treat negative emotions

Treating disappointment the unbound way

I bet you experienced this feeling, for so many times in your life.

(No worries, me too)

Let’s make up some (very related) examples:

Your crush refused you and your carefully prepared 100 roses, in front of so many strangers on the street?

Your colleague took the promotion at year end which should have been yours and laughed at your face?

Your loved one promised to come home early to have dinner together at your anniversary and was nowhere to be seen, even though it was so late already?

Whether we’re talking about a lost job, a child being disappointed because Mom or Dad didn’t make it to the school play, a failed marriage where you put the blame squarely on your spouse, the feelings are all the same. As a “victim”, your disappointment could be so great that you will not ever forgive. No matter how slight the reason is, when you are experiencing disappointment, the feelings are real. Consequently, if we do not deal with disappointment appropriately, they become counterproductive and create even more disappointment.

There are two types of people on earth. Type I are those who take any disappointment in stride; they observe what happened, explore the lesson that needs to be learned and then simply move onto the next adventure.

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3 powerful questions on how to be A BETTER YOU

Are you U N I Q U E ?

After reading that question, you probably already have the answer popping up in your mind.

Yes.

No?

Were you once told that you are made of stardust? Glamorous. Poetic. Mythical.

That no one else in the world has the exact fingertips as yours, even your twin doesn’t, if you have one.

That your voice and your appearance are so unique they can not be imitated naturally.

That you play a vital role on this earth, you were born for a reason, are gifted, original and unique.

In some way.

You will hate me for saying this, but despite all of the above, you are NOT UNIQUE, JUST DIFFERENT.

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Koinophobia: The fear of living an ordinary life

While I was floating on the information flow in a normal day, this video caught me like a dried branch grabs a yellow leaf in the river with its music, narrative, a sense of sadness, loss and fear.

It is a 3 minute video, you can watch it here.

Its words are so touching:

“While you’re in it, life seems epic.

Fiery, tenuous, and unpredictable.

But once you have some distance from it,

everything seems to shrink,

until it’s almost out of focus.

Koinophobia.

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What is your definition of happiness?

You and I, and so many other people know what make us happy. We bear hard things, we hit the books, we work our fingers to the bone, just to grab some moments of pleasure, satisfaction and happiness.

Relationships. Wealth. Fame. Food. Travel. To name a few.

Different people may have different kind of experience but we know very well what make us happy and we all want to pursue it.

However…

Is happiness our biggest goal we should aim for? Happiness is momentary, it comes and goes. We have drown ourselves into an endless loop of seeking, feeling and losing happiness. That’s why pursuing happiness often makes us unhappy and unsatisfied instead.

Some people may say that they want to seek for joy, because joy lives as the innate ability and lasts with us on our way of experiencing the world. Some, as their ultimate purpose, may look at peace, faithfulness, or even mindfulness. But again, is it enough?

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