Dealing with emotions, Thinking differently

Dealing with emotions, once for all

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Simply emotions are the way our mind communicates with us, they’re the messages our mind sends to us to tell us something, positive or negative. Dealing probably with your emotions all about understands this message and respond to it in a proper way. To understand this concept in more depth, let’s explore few emotions and see the message behind each one of them and how to respond to each one.

The message behind the emotions

Depression: the message behind depression is “Get me out of here”. Depression means that there’s something in your life causing you pain. One way to deal with this message is to do something about your situation. Whether it’s relationships problems, financial problems, losses or anything, you need to deal with that source of pain. That pain could be the fact that your parents are having a fight everyday, that pain could be the fact that you’re not sure of your social abilities and that pain could be the fact that you’re broke. But this is not enough to get depressed, it is because you choose to ignore those problems or to feel helpless in front of them, and actually sometimes this is the real source of the pain and the reason for depression.

So to end depression once for all you first need to double check your mindset: are you ignoring or feeling helpless?, then you need to work on making physical changes in your life as much as possible.

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The secret of doing “new little things”: How to overcome fear

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The secret of doing “new little things”: Overcome fear by summoning your Courage

I remember many years ago the Cartoon Network channel had a cartoon series named Courage The Cowardly Dog. This was a cute series about an excited and frightened pink dog that had been living in a house with two oldsters who every day faced with lots of monsters, aliens and ghosts. Courage ran and hid all the time, but every time when the two oldsters were in danger Courage would close his eyes to run back to rescue, for just all three could run together. Very cute.

Thinking about it, you have fears that you have no reason to eliminate. Like me, I have a fear of cockroaches. But that fear has no harm, so I have almost no motivation to eliminate it. After all, I still have the fear of cockroaches for decades. In fact, we have quite a lot of ways to overcome a fear, once we identify them, including fear of cockroaches.

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Dealing with emotions, Thinking differently

Shame of a perfectionist: Are you a celebrity? If not, forget it.

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Shame of a perfectionist: Are you a celebrity? If not, forget it.

Anyone of us might experienced the feeling of being ashamed in the past. Most of us can forget about it quickly, but there are some embarrassment which still stays there, and when we remember it, we feel uneasy, our hands sweat, our faces turn red.

A lousy presentation? A disgraceful saying? Whatever the case, the longest shame is the shame in front of others. (Because if you do a shameful thing that no one witnesses, the shame will drift into your subconsciousness forever).

For a perfectionist, shame is a real enemy. Because in about two dozen embarrassment in the last ten years, there might be only two cases that stayed in the minds for normal peeps. As perfectionists, because of high standards, their expectations of something are often pretty far from reality, that’s why they would cope with the feeling of their own shame more than others.

So, if you are not a perfectionist: take a breath, take s step to control your shame, why would you let it dominate you and not vice versa?

But if you are not a perfectionist, are you a public figure? If not, you are still lucky enough. Imagine the embarrassing moments of celebs being photographed, recorded, made into meme and spread around day by day.

Do you feel better?

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