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You are not your emotions

Recently when devoting most of my spare time to research on the emotion subject, I realized that when we talk about emotions to our friends, family, even to ourselves, it can’t be clear. Emotions are like tornadoes of feelings, which always seem to be so vague, yet so strong, which are unable to reach and control. We never realize, at least in times we are drown in our own emotions, that we are not those emotions.

You know the feelings of being disappointed, furious, discouraged, or depressed. Sometimes, the feelings can be more complicated, like experiencing misery as a result of discouragement, or disappointment coming after fury. At such moments, you were seeing a hole between who you truly are, and what you are encountering. You don’t know why or what precisely you are feeling, but simply realize that you don’t feel good. Feelings do have many layers which you need to recognize by serious reflection.

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9 reasons Doing new things is helping you evolve

This website is built to encourage doing new things and thinking different. For those who love challenges to thrive, it is clear as a bell. But for those who are so introverted, those who very much enjoy their comfort zone and those who are stuck with procrastination, doing new things is still difficult which requires energy, time, and priority (of course).

If you are one of the latter, you may want to read on to see some cool benefits of doing new, so that you will save your energy and time to put it in your priority list. And if you can make it even better, you will have the need to develop this “Doing new things” mindset, gain its momentum and build it as a habit.

1. Doing new things is A trait of successful people

Successful people might swear when they are talking to one type of person, meanwhile are sophisticated and classy when talking to another type. They might treat one of their employees in a semi-harsh way and treat another in a friendly and relaxed manner. These different situations have nothing to do with chance or coincidence. Highly successful people are fully aware of what they are communicating to the outside world, and they know so because they have a lot of different perspectives through which they can view things.

2. Overcoming fear and stagnation

Have you ever recalled your frequent anxiety or fear toward something? Public speaking? An important examination? A spider or a rat? Doing new little things is a great solution to train ourselves for fear, because it is the time for us to get control and not play victim. Sooner or later, we will be able to respond to difficult circumstances that we have to endure with greater ease. Plus, this method can get you motivated to remove the barriers progressively and overcome the stagnation as well. Gradually, when you get used to little challenges, you will realize that fear has stopped and stagnation has dropped. And then, when facing something that is about to happen, you have already collected enough stamina, and you pop up like a monarch butterfly emerging from chrysalis.

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Why keeping a journal is a smart way to reach your goal

When you decide to try on one new thing, which maybe your one of your new hobbies, adventures or studying, may I ask do you record it? and how? For instance, if you decide to learn about webdesign technique, do you write down why you decide to learn it, how good you plan to be at, your progress and along way results, your feelings and satisfactions?

How do you know how far you got from the initial decision of trying that one thing? How do you know if that really changed you? And how much more you want in life?

And that is just one thing. If you have a series of things you want to do, as written everywhere in this blog: the 100 new little things, how do you keep track of them?

I strongly recommend you to keep a journal for yourself. Because if you structure it well for your own purposes, you will amazingly accelerate in everything you want to do in life.

Personally I have a lot of journals of all kinds, mostly for reflection purpose. It will be very touching to open an old journal you wrote years ago and read what the young you once said. I am always captivated by my old ideas, dreams, friends, jobs and hobbies, in my most sparkling years back then. Most of those things I already forgot or left in my past, and when I see them again, I know how far I go and more importantly what’s next I want to pursue.

Do you keep a journal or have you at any point written in one? Keeping a journal can be significantly more than jotting during your day’s activities and contemplations. It may be where you become acquainted with yourself and explore your inner world. There is an exceptional sort of journal known as a bullet journal that will enable you to record so many things that are not just your past or memory, but your to-do list, your state, your health, your bucket list, your dreams, so on and so forth. It is often made with starter expressions or points for you to expound on and to consider. A great one even has places for you to return over your writing and note what you have learned about yourself.

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The way you know your Why

Let me tell you about someone I met at Taipei airport just on our Lunar new year trip this Feb. You may guess, an old friend, a colleague, a family member?

Nope. A rabbit.

Yes, you hear me well. I met a rabbit, his picture below:

Glamorous steps towards light – Nhyh Jen Ni Ni
My photo

I know, some may say it is too weird or devil, some are terrifying or annoying seeing this, and some freak out. It is not an easy statue, but I love it.

Nhyh-Jen Ni Ni, the artist of this piece of art, uses waste paper as the material of her sculptures, and reshapes it into rabbit-themed creations. Her works are reflections of all of us, who believe they can bravely break through the challenges and frustrations. The name of this statue is “Glamorous steps toward light”.

A narrative of this piece is:

“What’s the biggest fear in life?

Perhaps, it’s not the flaws we tried to improve nor the uncertainty in the dark. It’s the fear of meeting the brighter and stronger self that is beyond our imagination.

Often, we draw a line that prevents us from trying.

Often, we are accustomed to the comfort zone we are at.

However, who is the one set the trap for you and me?

Perhaps, being imperfect is not our biggest fear, it’s the ignorance where we know nothing about our own value.

Staring at the reflection of your face on the window along with the setting sun view, can’t you tell we are all unique and shinny gemstones?

Going out and exploring might be the first step to find your true self?”

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How to overcome procrastination and take the first step to your ultimate goal

I know, first steps stink!

The first step is always the most difficult step. We all have to fight with our laziness and procrastination to take the first step of anything. And not only that, first steps are new and therefore can never be smooth.

I also know, the first step is also the main cause that make 80% of new year’s resolutions fail in just the second month of the year. Why procrastination is that hard to overcome? Why taking the first step is always be beaten by so many reasons?

What is procrastination?

Procrastination alludes to the act of intentionally and constantly putting off assignments which should be done. Individuals who procrastinate tend to self-mislead their acts by doing different assignments which are insignificant to pass time, and afterwards have no opportunity to do the more difficult and essential assignments. In time, this turns into a negative behavior pattern that is hard to escape, and will influence the individual’s standard of work, just as his emotions or desires.

Where does procrastination come from?

There are heaps of manners by which the act of procrastination can develop. It is a certain thing that you won’t procrastinate dependably for the same reasons. At times, you procrastinate in light of the fact that you believe you have such a large number of things at the forefront of your thoughts and procrastinating makes you feel free. Be that as it may, on other occasions, you will simply feel apathetic or tired, and not in the state of mind to do it.

Below are various reasons for procrastination and the manners in which you can react to them.

Laziness

There are situations when we tend to procrastinate in light of the fact that we don’t have the physical or the enthusiastic power to work. Idleness is an exceptionally perilous thing, and it can drag you in laziness without taking note. At the point when laziness occurs, even the simplest assignment may require a ton of work. Why? Since you won’t have the level of energy that you require so as to play out that assignment, some may even say that the assignment is excessively troublesome and they will hesitate just to preserve energy. In any case, you should attempt to escape this pattern at the earliest opportunity before gloom kicks in.

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How to retain ourselves with love the unbound way

From people perspective, everything, every action, every motion, every thought, every feeling, all of life is an attempt to experience love. And when I mention “love” it is not just about Eros (the romantic love) but also:

  • Philia (deep friendship),
  • Ludus (playful love, which involves playful activities),
  • Agape (selfless love, including but not limited to love for humankind, for nature, for God),
  • Pragma (longstanding love, which involves duty and long term interests),
  • Philautia (self love, which can be healthy or unhealthy, we will discuss the healthy Philautia below), and
  • Storge (familial love) 

But how can we retain ourselves with love, incorporate this perspective into our daily lives and how do we therefore reduce our “negative” emotions such as hate, resentment, and anger? Is there an easy way of looking at ourselves and our emotions so that we can sustain the perspective that hate and love are just two sides of the same coin?

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Is art a talent or a skill?

Each individual has certain skills and talent that makes us different from one another. We frequently utilize the terms talent and and skill reciprocally, without knowing the way that these are not quite the same as each other. Talent is an inborn ability or regular inclination of an individual which is frequently hidden and needs acknowledgment, that is to say, being good in a specific activity, without actually learning or acquiring it. In contrast to skill, which is a learned ability, and it tends to be developed in somebody in the event that he/she put his time and endeavors in it. The endeavors should be intentional, methodical and supported to procure a skill and satisfactorily undertake different assignments and activities. In this article, you find out all the importance and details of talent and skil that you may be unconscious of.

Meaning of Talent

By the term talent, we mean an extraordinary ability to accomplish something controlled by an individual nature. It is something, which you do the best without putting additional endeavors into it.

Talent is an inborn quality within the person. Usually hidden and raw, which needs acknowledgment at the opportune time. It very well may be enhanced after some time if efforts are made the right way. Talent is innate, just a few people have really got it. Since it occurs naturally, a talent is additionally observed as a raw ability which can be developed and improved over time with direction like guidance and inspiration. All of us are brought into the world with a unique quality; that is talent. Not just in the field of study, an individual may have talent in singing, joking, cooking, acting, playing football, crafting and painting, and so on. If you set a child free and alone, he will take part in the action, he prefers most, or he is best in. It regularly occurs with numerous individuals that their talent stays plain as a result of the absence of legitimate direction, support and opportunity to showcase it.

Meaning of Skill

Skill alludes to ability or expertise in playing out a task, gotten by an individual through deliberate learning, practice or experience. It is the result of ceaseless endeavors and improvements made to gain proficiency.

Skill enables you to play out a task effectively. As there are no criteria for gaining skills, it tends to be rehearsed by any individual, yet it requires loads of diligent work, time and different assets of the individual to develop it.

Skill is the “nurture” angle which is the inverse of talent being the “nature” capacity. However, a skill can also be an outcome or an augmentation of an individual’s specific talent and extensive exertion. This implies a talent can be a venturing stone to improve a skill, and therefore a skill can be a refined capacity when combined with talent.

Skill can be general or explicit. General skills allude to the skills which are ordinarily obtained by the general population like leadership skills, teamwork, etc. Then again, specific skills are those which are identified with performing a particular task or job. Consistent improvement of any activity or art gives preference for any person.

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