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Treating guilt the unbound way

Remember the time when you felt like you did something wrong. Okay, I know it’s very frustrated to relive your bad feelings, but for a moment at least recall how you once dealt with it, because that’s the only way to find a better approach to treat your guilt.

Guilt is a message from our emotion to learn from mistake so we would not repeat it. The key lesson learned when you feel “guilty” is being able to recognize “I did something bad”, which is much different than claiming “I am bad”.

Do not hate yourself, hate what you did instead and decide to change or improve from it.

The choice is ours as to whether we bury ourselves in guilt or let it go. It is important to remember that guilt can be a good thing, as an expression of our conscience and its response to the mistakes we make along the way. There is no such thing as a perfect-person, at least not in this day and age. We all have done things we felt guilty about. The problem arises when we cannot move past the guilt or when that guilt brings self-destructive behavior.

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Know your Why, Think different, Treat expectations, Treat negative emotions

One way to cure all of your negativity

There is,

A unique way to cure your negative feelings,

And not just those feelings, it also cures

All of your irritation,

Confusion,

And discouragement,

It is nothing other than,

To Know your Why


My three-year-old child once,

Decided not to wear clothes on his own

He asked for help, with his kittenish voice,

“Mom, don’t you love me anymore.”

The melted me answered, “My sweetheart, of course I love you.”

Then he went: “Help me wear these clothes, if so.”

And I replied, “I love you, baby,

But no.”

The guilt was there

But I knew my Why.


You may also once,

Felt like you don’t want to accept more workplace challenges.

Because more hard work means less free time

The irritation was there

But you knew your Why.


You may also once,

Felt like the thing you know IS RIGHT

Will never bring you the future of wealth

Because the souls were moved, not the pockets were filled

The confusion was there

But you knew your Why


And once,

You felt like the people you love

Never understand what you have been doing

Because love should have brought “ease and cheese”

The discouragement was there

But you knew your Why


And that was the time

You stepped over your negative feelings

Irritation, Confusion, Discouragement

That were floating on the surface

And faced your ultimate FEAR

That was hiding deep down

And slayed that dragon

With your sword of WHY.

Know your Why, Think different, Treat negative emotions

Treating disappointment the unbound way

I bet you experienced this feeling, for so many times in your life.

(No worries, me too)

Let’s make up some (very related) examples:

Your crush refused you and your carefully prepared 100 roses, in front of so many strangers on the street?

Your colleague took the promotion at year end which should have been yours and laughed at your face?

Your loved one promised to come home early to have dinner together at your anniversary and was nowhere to be seen, even though it was so late already?

Whether we’re talking about a lost job, a child being disappointed because Mom or Dad didn’t make it to the school play, a failed marriage where you put the blame squarely on your spouse, the feelings are all the same. As a “victim”, your disappointment could be so great that you will not ever forgive. No matter how slight the reason is, when you are experiencing disappointment, the feelings are real. Consequently, if we do not deal with disappointment appropriately, they become counterproductive and create even more disappointment.

There are two types of people on earth. Type I are those who take any disappointment in stride; they observe what happened, explore the lesson that needs to be learned and then simply move onto the next adventure.

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Think different, Treat expectations

How to change with ease (and fun)

Last week I had great training sessions at work, in which change management is a nice small part which I find relevant and want to share with you in this blog. Every organization encounter an urge to change, and sadly, organisations, like people, don’t prefer changes very much. But in business, change is a must, sometimes vital for the company not to be broken down. In order to ease the process, “change management” is born to help from top down.

And then I thought, this is pretty much related to personal development as well. It comes from our willingness, tops down from our brain, fuels our growth and brings us opportunities to complete ourselves.      

But it’s not easy. One of my colleagues said that it made him touched out for trying to be better everyday, for working late in his cubicle, for exercising till exhaustion, for continuously improving and proving to the world that he worths.

That he is having no life and no happiness. What he got was just merely stress, exhaustion and disappointment over time, especially when he sees that it still takes too far to reach his desire peak.

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Know your Why, Think different, Treat expectations

3 powerful questions on how to be A BETTER YOU

Are you U N I Q U E ?

After reading that question, you probably already have the answer popping up in your mind.

Yes.

No?

Were you once told that you are made of stardust? Glamorous. Poetic. Mythical.

That no one else in the world has the exact fingertips as yours, even your twin doesn’t, if you have one.

That your voice and your appearance are so unique they can not be imitated naturally.

That you play a vital role on this earth, you were born for a reason, are gifted, original and unique.

In some way.

You will hate me for saying this, but despite all of the above, you are NOT UNIQUE, JUST DIFFERENT.

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Do new things, Draw

LIST of new arty things for you to have fun, and it’s FREE.

Recently the art subject conqueurs my thoughts. I have written a few articles of trying new things relating to art, but it will take a lot of time to cover every topic in this field. Therefore, I am thinking of creating some arty thing to serve these 3 points:

  • Beautiful appearance (and arty, of course!)
  • Fun and easy to try, even when you do this on your own or with your best folks
  • Journaling to reflect your experience

Then I come up with a series of “creative journaling cards”. These cards are beautifully designed to fit the above mentioned, and aimed to light an arty candle inside you.

Please don’t say, “I am not able to do any art”. Or, “I am not artistic”. The truth is: Anyone can do art.

Bonus: Hard work beats talent!

Okay, enough words. Here are my first attemps:

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Do new things, Know your Why, Think different

Koinophobia: The fear of living an ordinary life

While I was floating on the information flow in a normal day, this video caught me like a dried branch grabs a yellow leaf in the river with its music, narrative, a sense of sadness, loss and fear.

It is a 3 minute video, you can watch it here.

Its words are so touching:

“While you’re in it, life seems epic.

Fiery, tenuous, and unpredictable.

But once you have some distance from it,

everything seems to shrink,

until it’s almost out of focus.

Koinophobia.

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