Know your Why, Think different, Treat negative emotions

Treating disappointment the unbound way

I bet you experienced this feeling, for so many times in your life.

(No worries, me too)

Let’s make up some (very related) examples:

Your crush refused you and your carefully prepared 100 roses, in front of so many strangers on the street?

Your colleague took the promotion at year end which should have been yours and laughed at your face?

Your loved one promised to come home early to have dinner together at your anniversary and was nowhere to be seen, even though it was so late already?

Whether we’re talking about a lost job, a child being disappointed because Mom or Dad didn’t make it to the school play, a failed marriage where you put the blame squarely on your spouse, the feelings are all the same. As a “victim”, your disappointment could be so great that you will not ever forgive. No matter how slight the reason is, when you are experiencing disappointment, the feelings are real. Consequently, if we do not deal with disappointment appropriately, they become counterproductive and create even more disappointment.

There are two types of people on earth. Type I are those who take any disappointment in stride; they observe what happened, explore the lesson that needs to be learned and then simply move onto the next adventure.

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Think different, Treat expectations

How to change with ease (and fun)

Last week I had great training sessions at work, in which change management is a nice small part which I find relevant and want to share with you in this blog. Every organization encounter an urge to change, and sadly, organisations, like people, don’t prefer changes very much. But in business, change is a must, sometimes vital for the company not to be broken down. In order to ease the process, “change management” is born to help from top down.

And then I thought, this is pretty much related to personal development as well. It comes from our willingness, tops down from our brain, fuels our growth and brings us opportunities to complete ourselves.      

But it’s not easy. One of my colleagues said that it made him touched out for trying to be better everyday, for working late in his cubicle, for exercising till exhaustion, for continuously improving and proving to the world that he worths.

That he is having no life and no happiness. What he got was just merely stress, exhaustion and disappointment over time, especially when he sees that it still takes too far to reach his desire peak.

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Know your Why, Think different, Treat expectations

3 powerful questions on how to be A BETTER YOU

Are you U N I Q U E ?

After reading that question, you probably already have the answer popping up in your mind.

Yes.

No?

Were you once told that you are made of stardust? Glamorous. Poetic. Mythical.

That no one else in the world has the exact fingertips as yours, even your twin doesn’t, if you have one.

That your voice and your appearance are so unique they can not be imitated naturally.

That you play a vital role on this earth, you were born for a reason, are gifted, original and unique.

In some way.

You will hate me for saying this, but despite all of the above, you are NOT UNIQUE, JUST DIFFERENT.

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Do new things, Draw

LIST of new arty things for you to have fun, and it’s FREE.

Recently the art subject conqueurs my thoughts. I have written a few articles of trying new things relating to art, but it will take a lot of time to cover every topic in this field. Therefore, I am thinking of creating some arty thing to serve these 3 points:

  • Beautiful appearance (and arty, of course!)
  • Fun and easy to try, even when you do this on your own or with your best folks
  • Journaling to reflect your experience

Then I come up with a series of “creative journaling cards”. These cards are beautifully designed to fit the above mentioned, and aimed to light an arty candle inside you.

Please don’t say, “I am not able to do any art”. Or, “I am not artistic”. The truth is: Anyone can do art.

Bonus: Hard work beats talent!

Okay, enough words. Here are my first attemps:

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Do new things, Know your Why, Think different

Koinophobia: The fear of living an ordinary life

While I was floating on the information flow in a normal day, this video caught me like a dried branch grabs a yellow leaf in the river with its music, narrative, a sense of sadness, loss and fear.

It is a 3 minute video, you can watch it here.

Its words are so touching:

“While you’re in it, life seems epic.

Fiery, tenuous, and unpredictable.

But once you have some distance from it,

everything seems to shrink,

until it’s almost out of focus.

Koinophobia.

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Know your Why, Think different

What is your definition of happiness?

You and I, and so many other people know what make us happy. We bear hard things, we hit the books, we work our fingers to the bone, just to grab some moments of pleasure, satisfaction and happiness.

Relationships. Wealth. Fame. Food. Travel. To name a few.

Different people may have different kind of experience but we know very well what make us happy and we all want to pursue it.

However…

Is happiness our biggest goal we should aim for? Happiness is momentary, it comes and goes. We have drown ourselves into an endless loop of seeking, feeling and losing happiness. That’s why pursuing happiness often makes us unhappy and unsatisfied instead.

Some people may say that they want to seek for joy, because joy lives as the innate ability and lasts with us on our way of experiencing the world. Some, as their ultimate purpose, may look at peace, faithfulness, or even mindfulness. But again, is it enough?

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Think different, Treat negative emotions

Treating fear the unbound way

Have you ever experienced a Eureka moment? I once suddenly understood a secret of almost all of our negative emotions when I was asking around the question: “What is your most irritated negative feeling?”

And results? Mine is “I have problems with anger” (read my article about Treating anger the unbound way), some will have different issues such as:

“I am still poor and I hate that”

“I don’t want to socialize but I’m not so good feeling lonely as well”

“I hate [this] because I can’t control it”

“I want to be free but at this time I can’t, and I’m so frustrated with this.”

“I am over jealous with all of my boyfriend’s female friends and I’m upset with it”

“I don’t know yet about my future.” [both studying and working]

The list goes on.

And I will tell you this secret:

It starts with Fear.

90% of our bad emotions come from Fear. Let’s work again all of the emotions (and feel free to apply yours!):

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