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Koinophobia: The fear of living an ordinary life

While I was floating on the information flow in a normal day, this video caught me like a dried branch grabs a yellow leaf in the river with its music, narrative, a sense of sadness, loss and fear.

It is a 3 minute video, you can watch it here.

Its words are so touching:

“While you’re in it, life seems epic.

Fiery, tenuous, and unpredictable.

But once you have some distance from it,

everything seems to shrink,

until it’s almost out of focus.

Koinophobia.

When you look back over your life, or try to put it down on paper,

You can see more of it now than ever before.

And yet it seems somehow diminished. Humble. Almost quaint.

So you begin scanning your life, looking for something interesting or beautiful.

You see an ordinary house, with an ordinary yard, on an ordinary street.

It looks smaller than you remember. You once had wild dreams and obstacles and risks looming all around you, but now they look smaller too.

You remember giants and goddesses and villains, but all you see is ordinary people assembled in their tiny classrooms and workspaces, each of us moving around in little steps, like tokens on a game board. No matter how many times you rolled the dice, it was always these little moves, here and there.

Do a little work, Take a little rest. Make a little friend, Throw a little party. Feel a little boredom, Have a little rebellion. There are so many of these token moments, that were supposed to represent some other thing. You keep adding them all up, as if there was something you forgot to count, some stash of glory that fell off the back of a truck.

You may adore the life you have, for everything it is. You know it isn’t groundbreaking; you wouldn’t change a thing. Maybe when you first started building the life you wanted, you left plenty of room for what might happen, and somehow lost track of what was happening.

Or maybe you were never ‘in it’ to begin with. Maybe you knew even then that this wasn’t the world you expected. A world so low and common you tried to keep your distance, floating somewhere above it, where nobody else could look down on this life you built.

Nobody else but you.”

It brought me sadness for a moment, I admitted. Because I once had the same feeling in my old days, when I was so young, so sensitive, so afraid of the unknown world.

I was quite surprised because too many millennials who feel the same way like I did, who have liked, shared and commented to spead this video over their social media networks.

And I wonder, is there a strong connection between not having an ultimate purpose, and this fear of living an ordinary life?

I wrote an article about “pursuing something beyond happiness”, in which I mentioned that the endless loop of seeking, feeling and losing happiness may not be worth pursuing.

Do a little work, Take a little rest. Make a little friend, Throw a little party. Feel a little boredom, Have a little rebellion. There are so many of these token moments, that were supposed to represent some other things. You keep adding them all up, as if there was something you forgot to count, some stash of glory that fell off the back of a truck.

Guess what, you feel that way because there is a missing ingredient. You did something little, with some consistency, but were those things new to you? Something new that could break you out of your box and reinvent yourself?

And then, after those activities, do you spend time to review your activities, feelings and thoughts? Do you connect your dots and find yourself a meaningful way of living? That is exactly what they called some stash of glory that fell off the back of a truck.

You can not just feel the thing and then leave it there. Things that make change would involve a plan. A thought. A reflection. A determination. A wisdom.

By doing so, you don’t have to always roll the dice. You don’t have to change your environment, recharge your energy or escape your troubles by travelling to some other places. Giants and goddesses and villains are still there, the easiest yet wisest thing you could do is to remain your state of a child you once had then the answer will come.

Living with a purpose and gratitude are everything needed to make an ordinary life shines.

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